Thursday, September 4, 2008

Advice Please! Cry It Out?

Since Drew was born we've been sharing a family bed. We did this for several reasons, and I don't regret it at all. It gave us all more and better sleep during those early weeks. However, now that he's staying asleep in bed (not all night, by any means!) but still being noisy and fidgety, I feel it's time for him to transition at least to his bassinet. Maybe at 3 or 4 months we'll move him to his crib across the house. I just feel that since he's not eating every 2 hours anymore at night that it's time for Mommy and Daddy to get some better sleep!

I don't know what I want to hear. That you've done it? That your child still loves you? How long it took for him/her to fall asleep on his/her own? Should I put him in his new bed and let him learn to CIO at the same time or do them separately? I've read several articles that suggest that co-sleeping babies don't sleep through the night as quickly as non co-sleeping babies. Reason being? If you had a piece of chocolate cake lying next to you all night, would you take a nibble even if you weren't hungry? That's their theory at least! I thought if I put his bassinet right next to our bed and maybe just put my hand in with him until he fell asleep (since he's used to lying right next to my entire body) that it might ease the transition. Heavens. I don't know!

Right now I'm trying to start putting him in his bassinet for naps and praying he doesn't pee everywhere, waking himself up. He's been asleep for almost an hour, but I hear him stirring around now!

Any advice for a new mom? I think if I let him cry it out, I'll cry with him!

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Kelly said...

First off, the biggest piece of advice I can give is to remember that every baby is SO different. What works for one may not work for another. So be sure to cut yourself some slack if you hear the stories of other babies sleeping all night at 2 months old. :)

Around 3 months, I started working on getting Tate to self-sooth as I put him to sleep in his crib (awake). Then at about 4 months (once I really felt that he didn't need to eat anymore during the night), I did the cry it out. Fortunately, that really only lasted 3 nights. Once he figured it out, he was good to go.

My favorite baby book was the "Happiest Baby on the Block." His big thing is getting through the "4th trimester" and then starting the CIO startegies.

Hope it helps...hang in there!

Andrew & Audra said...


I just finished reading Happiest Baby on the Block yesterday. I think you're right in getting through the 4th trimester. Maybe in 4 more weeks he'll be more capable of soothing himself. Thanks!

Hamlett Daily Dose said...

Hey Audra, I agree with the PP. He is too young to CIO, but definitely not too young to start to learn how to self-soothe with your help. I never did the whole co-sleeping thing, so I can't comment there. I did however find that once I moved Mason to his crib in his own room (at around 8 weeks) that he slept SO much better. Maybe it was because it was quieter in the nursery? I'm not sure. But just throwing that out there for ya. Good luck to you. So mnay of us have been there and know how tough it can be - hang in there!

Jenny said...

Hi, Jenny, friend of Hilary's, here. I stressed about the exact same thing... go easy on yourself. It turned out to not be a problem at all! We put baby in the crib at five weeks, anticipating the CIO nights. But, if you go ahead and do it while the baby is so young, they most likely won't have the anxiety (and therefore won't need to self-soothe). Now baby is 4 months, and if I'd waited until now, we'd have the crying to deal with. Our friends had fits after waiting until their daughter was only 3 months (she's super-intelligent).

I'm a firm believer in doing as you intend to continue (I think that quote comes from the Baby Whisperer). Habits are set in motion so early.

But, above all, trust YOUR gut, and BE KIND TO YOURSELF.

Andrew & Audra said...

Thank you so much for all your comments!

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