If you’re a mom to a spunky, energetic boy, this post may be a blessing to you. I hesitated to write it, aiming to respect my son’s privacy. But then I decided I could share my heart (something I enjoy doing with others!) while respecting him at the same time. I hope someone out there finds encouragement from this!
Maybe it’s the fact that I’m still a relatively new mom. Maybe it has something to do with never largely being around any boys outside of my husband and my dad. Maybe it has a whole lot to do with the fact that I prayed for a boy who would be 100% boy…and got my prayer granted.
Whatever the reason, God is teaching me so much about being a mom to a boy. Now, I’m sure Hannah will have her challenging moments as she gets older. I hear drama is all the rage in toddler girls. But at least I’ve had some experience with that, being a girl myself. But boys….oh boy. That’s new territory for me.
You know something about boys who are 100% boy?They’re energetic. They’re LOUD. They’re rambunctious. They’re fun. They thrive on the outdoors, learning new things through physical activities. They get bored easily. They find it nearly impossible to sit still more than 10 minutes. They have no desire to color a picture or do craft that isn’t semi-messy. They want to be moving, jumping, yelling, wrestling. Does that make you tired just reading it?! Some days I’m exhausted by 10am.
My challenge has not been to love my son. No, not at all. I love this rambunctious, joyful being with every breath I have in me. But the challenge is how this 100% female mama is to embrace this God-given 100% boyish spirit and not conform him to ways of the world that just aren’t him. I want to shape his will while keeping His spirit in tact. Some of you may read that statement and say, “Huh?” Others of you will know exactly what I may be talking about.
He LOVES being around other people-adults and kids. But he has a problem sitting down and paying attention in a small classroom for 2 hours at his mother’s day out program. The other children seem to enjoy coloring worksheets and using a glue stick, but Drew...well, Drew would much rather be outside running and climbing a tree. Or jumping off a high swinging swing. Or picking up leaves. Or having a sword fight with a stick. You get my drift? I expect him to be able to sit for 10-15 minutes in a classroom setting, but after that, he needs physical activity!
This problem has caused me some turmoil in the past few weeks, but God revealed something to me that should have been very for me to see. God gave me THIS child for a reason (and I’m so thankful). Because I have the abilities that this child requires to be shaped into the MAN God wants him to be, the intelligent God I serve put him into my womb and my arms. God has called me to sacrifice self and embrace raising this beautiful boy. Some days I wonder if I’m doing the job faithfully that God has placed before me. I wonder if I really do have what it takes. But on those weary days I can feel God’s hand of support. He puts people or words into my life that reaffirm what I know and lift me up to start a new day with a new idea on how to challenge, teach, and entertain him.
Drew is a spunky, strong-headed, fun loving toddler who might not think the way most other kids think. And God has revealed to me that these very qualities which sometimes make him a handful of a toddler are going to make him an amazing man one day. And he’s also revealed to me that these changes will not take place overnight. The teaching that he requires will take 1) time 2) patience. But with time and patience will come a man who will love the Lord and serve him with these incredible attributes with which God gifted him.
He will be hard-working and not lazy. He will be persistent. He will love being around others. He will be quick to forgive. He will be loving. He will think outside the box. He will be sensitive to others’ emotions. He will help manage his home. He will know all sorts of incredible things about the outdoors to teach his children. He’ll be a handyman.
God is going to use these traits that make him challenging at the present times to be such a blessing in his future.
I love being the mom of a little boy. Even one who is 100% boy. Especially one who is 100% boy. And God is teaching me right alongside Drew. He’s teaching me to lean on him, to be gracious, to see things in a different light, to be patient, to study His word, to seek His counsel at every turn, and to put aside my cares about what others may say and put my eyes on Him only-to only seek his approval. Because His is the ONLY one that matters.